Talk:My Trust is Like Gold/@comment-26485526-20191124163630

I just want to start off by saying that I really appreciated the scene with Kirsten & Ophelia. I'm glad Ophelia apologized for assuming that Kirsten's abuser was a male; however, I can't help but think about how Ophelia would have reacted if the shoe was on the other foot, and I am starting to smell utter hypocrisy from her. I hope that I am overreacting, and am not cancelling Ophelia by any means, but I really don't think Ophelia realizes just how dangerous her assumption is.

Back in 2014, I took a course literally titled "Family Violence" at the University of Manitoba. During this course, I learned that men and women were EQUALLY likely to be the PERPETRATORS of inter-partner violence. The problem is that men do not report when they are being abused. I found an abstract from a study published in The Journal of Forensic Psychiatry & Psychology (Volume 27, Issue 3) by Wendy Morgan & Michelle Wells titled "‘It’s deemed unmanly’: men’s experiences of intimate partner violence (IPV)

I don't have a log-in, so I can't get past the abstract, but if you want to read it, here is the link: https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/figure/10.1080/14789949.2015.1127986?scroll=top&needAccess=true

From research credited to Murray Strauss (from my notes), I have:

Men are predominant in every other crime, everywhere in the world. We have empathy for women because women suffer 2/3 of injuries, and 2/3 of deaths.

If you reverse those above statistics, that means that 1/3 of partners injured are men, and 1/3 of partners that die from intimate partner violence are men. I also found in my notes that there is a disturbing trend of feminist scholars that literally try to hide/distort data on intimate partner violence by doing a few things:


 * 1) Eliminating data in tables that show women as equal perpetrators, and keeping those that show men are primary perpetrators.
 * 2) During research, only asking men about perpetration and women about victimization
 * 3) Only publishing data on male perpetration
 * 4) Selectively choosing citations of research (ignoring results that do not show their favoured result)
 * 5) Publishing conclusions that are not in the data
 * 6) Blocking publication of articles that contradict their agenda
 * 7) Denying funding to studies that may contradict their agenda
 * 8) Harass, threaten, and penalize researchers producing evidence that contradicts their beliefs
 * 9) Biased media coverage

Below I have linked a statement from Murray Strauss about this exact issue: https://www.powerandcontrolfilm.com/the-topics/academics/murray-straus/

That pretty much sums up what I have. Thank you Tangle for putting a spotlight on this issue of female perpetrated partner violence, even if Kirsten just got the boot. The more we make assumptions that women can only be victims and not perpetrators, the worse the problem will get.

"Women are never going to be safe in their own homes until they stop hitting as well as their partners stop hitting." - Murray Strauss, University of New Hampshire, 2014